The Darkness Doesn’t Need to be Black

Finding Comfort in Times of Loss

Sometimes, unexpectedly we come across a passage in a book that resonates with us. It just seems so relevant to that time in our life that we feel it was written purposely for us. We instantly want to make a note of it, to keep it near, or share with others.

I found just such a passage back May 2016. I was fighting a very severe case of post-bereavement depression, and everything literally seemed black or dark.

I didn’t want to go to work, to meet people, some days I didn’t even want to get out of bed. If I hadn’t had my dogs who needed feeding and walking, I don’t think I’d have even bothered to get dressed for about a month.

I spent most of my time reading. For me, reading has always been a solace, an escape from reality, an alternative Universe. So at this time in my life it was natural for me to pick the one medium that provided comfort.

On 8th May, I was reading Susan Lewis’ book, A Class Apart, and came across the following passage. It made such an impact that I actually stopped reading, typed it out and stuck in on the unit above my workstation at home. I have probably read this passage every day since. It gave me the push I needed to claw my way out of the darkness and join the world of the living again. It still inspires me.

How do I know it works? You are seeing the results for yourself. Just 16 months later, I launched this on-line magazine, a thing I could not have hoped to do when I was in that dark place.

I hope that if you are in a dark place of your own and need a gentle push to climb back into the light that this passage gives you the inspiration to start the new phase in your life.

“We each have our own ways of feeling pain and loss, and at the time, it is worse for you than for anyone else, no matter who you are…

“When you are ready you will pull yourself up and fight back. Some days will be good, and you will think that the worst has passed, and then something will happen, and you will feel bad again. And it is on those days, when it is almost impossible, that you must be brave, and fight. In my experience the fighters always win. But you have to be brave. Take life by the horns, and live it. Rebel against the misery that saps your strength, and tell yourself that you have a whole new life in front of you, and accept the challenge. And think how lucky you are, how exciting it is, to be starting a new phase in your life. It is all ahead of you, and there is no knowing what lies in store. Don’t look back”

From A Class Apart by Susan Lewis

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