My Personal Menopause

Eighteen months ago I was a loud, happy, confident, bubbly 47-year-old. Until the day I made an appointment to see the doctor…!

“Yes Sharon, you are going through the menopause.”


Tears, tears and more tears: I could not stop crying. Menopause? You are having a laugh! But this was no laugh. This was the real deal.

I’d been to see my doctor two weeks earlier as I felt really down for no reason. I kept having hot flushes all day, everyday. Everything was a struggle and all I wanted to do was hibernate under the duvet.

So here it is. ‘The Menopause’ is upon me. I had a hysterectomy nine years ago so I knew this would happen one day, but I was not ready for what awaited me and still does…

Well, what can I say? How long have you got?

Hot flushes, all day, everyday, feeling like you are on fire, constantly. Night sweats, duvet on, off, on, off, on, off. Weight-gain the bane of my life, I feel so fat, it really upsets me. In six months, my boobs grew from 34c to 34f. It was emotional to find that out! My bladder, bless it, fills up quicker than anything. I am constantly going to the loo, especially at night. My skin itches constantly. It’s red raw sometimes as I am forever scratching. I am tired all day, everyday. I can sleep for seven hours, wake up and feel worse than I did before. I cry a lot. I do not know why most of the time but those tears just appear. No energy some days, too much energy other days. I suffered badly from agoraphobia, I was too scared to go outside the front door as it was too loud, too many people, too busy, too overwhelming, I just could not cope. I used to go for walks in the evening with my husband for a while when there was no one around. My mum used to take me for a ride in the car for an hour just so I would get out in the fresh air.

The menopause has made me feel empty, useless, undesirable, miserable and deflated.

I am now on anti-depressants which help with the depression part of the menopause, but everything else I have to deal with one day at a time.

I go out more, but I’m still not too keen on major crowds. Maybe in time that will get better.

My family are a constant help and support. I don’t know what I would do without them.

If you get overwhelmed by all your symptoms, talk to your family friends or even the doctor. Try long walks, listening to music, have a dance in your lounge, and laugh. Never stop laughing or smiling.

Menopause is affecting millions of women, but remember, at the end of it, it is definitely a Change of Life for the better.


  1. Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment, we very much appreciate your thoughts, I am sure that Sharon will think the same,

  2. Sharon, Thank you, thank you, thank you. I’m 50 and have been experiencing so of these things too! Last year was a particularly bad year for me and I didn’t leave the house for 6 months. I find meditations helps me immensely now. I listen to motivational, soothing meditations to help me sleep. Since I’ve been doing it I’m more confident and able to get on with my life. I now have two new jobs (one which had lead to having a column on here). Made new friends and have to say I am loving life again. I’m on anti depressants, but I can live with that. Although everyone keeps talking about HRT??

    But its really helpful to know I am not alone.
    Karma Violet has some amazing meditations – I must ask her to record and send them to me. I miss her calming voice.

    P.S. do you think all women where evil in a previous life – its such a curse to be a women 😉 Thanks for sharing x

  3. I apologise for not replying sooner, but I was not aware of your message till Helen told me today.
    When we prescribe remedies for menopause or any other condition we arrange a consultation so that we can find out what remedy will suit you as everyone experiences their menopause differently. A consultation costs £50 until March, this is 90 minutes, after which I will select and provide a remedy at no extra cost. There are many different remedies it could be but if I hazard a guess without seeing you, you could end up spending a lot of money and being no further on. I am happy to discuss this with you over the phone. 0793 619 2353.
    In homeopathy there are some specific remedies for specific problems for example Arnica will always work for bruises on anyone. Menopause is a little more difficult.

  4. Hi
    What kind of homeopathic remedies do you suggest? Do you recommend any one? I am in need of some help and advice especially as my hot flushes are 24/7!!!!

  5. Thank you for your comment, Purple Conversations appreciate hearing from you. We love to hear from therapists who are able to offer helpful advice to our readers. We would love to hear from you again if you have further advice for our readers.

  6. Homeopathy really excels when it comes to menopause and other hormonal issues.It is really worth a try, the results are usually very quick and after the first consultation there are no other costs. It is good value.

  7. I would really recommend using homeopathy. Homeopathy really excels when it comes to women’s hormonal issues, it is cost effective as you only pay for the consultation and the results can be amazingly fast for these conditions.

  8. Very interesting and honest piece. I can identify with some of the symptoms you are experiencing Sharon. Thank you for sharing your experiences.

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